Last night I attended a birthday celebration at one of Toronto's new dance clubs, Cantina Charlie's. This was my first time going to a club, in Toronto, since the last time I went to Cantina Charlie's in July. Upon returning to my friend's home at 2:30am, I found myself sitting asking many questions.
I dance. In the right environment - essentially with the right music - I can dance until the club closes without stopping for more than a few minutes every once in a while. When I dance, I don't think about how I look and I don't care much about what I'm doing and who it's with. All that really matters is whether I'm having a good time or not and how I feel...i.e. am I embarrassing myself? do I feel uncomfortable?
In my experiences, it is very apparent to me that I could be doing much worse...all around me there are people kissing, feeling each other in places that shouldn't be touched in public, and in some cases performing acts that shouldn't be done in public either. In the meantime, all I do is dance with my friends, occasionally grind with a cute boy that passes by, and - in the cases where a stripper pole is present - it sometimes gets used. :S
Yet, I still get questioned as to whether I'm having fun or not in a tone that implies I'm "behaving badly". I don't understand! Is it really that bad to let the music fill your body and dance along with it? What's wrong with letting a boy that doesn't scare me dance with me? Has dancing with boys become the equivalent of a one night stand?
I danced with 4 different boys last night...Natalia would be proud...I got complimented by one of the guys who was out with us for doing well, but it seemed I was being judged by a girl for the same reasons I was being complimented. What's up with that?
Now I know I'm not providing much background thought leading up to this question but the question I'm inspired to ask is...have we blurred the lines of appropriate behaviour so much that we can no longer be socially appropriate for everyone at the same time?
I'm constantly being told to do what makes me happy and not worry about what others think...but there are certain lines that still exist that most people, including myself, don't want to cross in anyone's eyes. It just is becoming clear that it's almost impossible to stay on the right side of the line in everyone's opinion and thus it's becoming essential to only worry about yourself. If this is true, we can all stop worrying about how we appear in other's eyes because it won't matter anymore. We've lost the base line for judgement....what happens in a world where people serve only themselves and don't worry about what other's think? (Not just ideally but in actuality) Is this a good thing that we're finally not caring? Or does this open doors for really bad behaviour?
It's a shame that I'm writing this so early in my blogging...as I don't think I have many friends reading this yet and I'd really like to hear their thoughts....guess I'll just have to inspire them to read.
I dance. In the right environment - essentially with the right music - I can dance until the club closes without stopping for more than a few minutes every once in a while. When I dance, I don't think about how I look and I don't care much about what I'm doing and who it's with. All that really matters is whether I'm having a good time or not and how I feel...i.e. am I embarrassing myself? do I feel uncomfortable?
In my experiences, it is very apparent to me that I could be doing much worse...all around me there are people kissing, feeling each other in places that shouldn't be touched in public, and in some cases performing acts that shouldn't be done in public either. In the meantime, all I do is dance with my friends, occasionally grind with a cute boy that passes by, and - in the cases where a stripper pole is present - it sometimes gets used. :S
Yet, I still get questioned as to whether I'm having fun or not in a tone that implies I'm "behaving badly". I don't understand! Is it really that bad to let the music fill your body and dance along with it? What's wrong with letting a boy that doesn't scare me dance with me? Has dancing with boys become the equivalent of a one night stand?
I danced with 4 different boys last night...Natalia would be proud...I got complimented by one of the guys who was out with us for doing well, but it seemed I was being judged by a girl for the same reasons I was being complimented. What's up with that?
Now I know I'm not providing much background thought leading up to this question but the question I'm inspired to ask is...have we blurred the lines of appropriate behaviour so much that we can no longer be socially appropriate for everyone at the same time?
I'm constantly being told to do what makes me happy and not worry about what others think...but there are certain lines that still exist that most people, including myself, don't want to cross in anyone's eyes. It just is becoming clear that it's almost impossible to stay on the right side of the line in everyone's opinion and thus it's becoming essential to only worry about yourself. If this is true, we can all stop worrying about how we appear in other's eyes because it won't matter anymore. We've lost the base line for judgement....what happens in a world where people serve only themselves and don't worry about what other's think? (Not just ideally but in actuality) Is this a good thing that we're finally not caring? Or does this open doors for really bad behaviour?
It's a shame that I'm writing this so early in my blogging...as I don't think I have many friends reading this yet and I'd really like to hear their thoughts....guess I'll just have to inspire them to read.
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